We Are Survivors 

This blog is dedicated to the tens of millions of adult survivors of child abuse and neglect who get up every day and try to work and function in a world that seems to not care about us.

Wounds that Won't Heal- Part 2

What has been learned about childhood abuse’s impact on the brain will hopefully lead to new ideas for treatment.[1] The most immediate conclusion, however, is the crucial need for prevention. If childhood maltreatment exerts enduring negative effects on the developing brain, fundamentally altering one’s mental capacity and personality, it may be possible to compensate for these abnormalities – to succeed in spite of them.

Wounds that Won't Heal- Part 1

We easily understand how beating a child may damage the developing brain, but what about the all-too-common psychological abuse of children? Because the abuse was not physical, these children may be told, as adults, that they should just “get over it.”[1]

Indifference is as Disturbing as the Crime (Part 2 of 2)

The failure by senior government officials to condemn Hastert is matched by the health care media and professional health associations’ failure to report the health consequences resulting from childhood sexual abuse.

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Yes it is indeed as disturbing as the crime. We Survivors need more support to speak out and to make public our journeys to try to... Read More
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Wednesday, 13 July 2016 15:15

Indifference is as Disturbing as the Crime (Part 1 of 2)

This past April 8th federal prosecutors made known former Republican House Speaker, Denis Hastert, sexually molested at least four boys while employed as an Illinois high school wrestling coach beginning in the 1960s. Prosecutors said there was “no ambiguity” about these abuses. They were, they said, “known acts.”[1] While the news was disturbing, sexual and all other forms of child abuse is commonplace.

Child Abuse & Neglect Survey

My name is Sandra Trott. I am currently working on my dissertation to obtain a doctorate in counseling psychology. I am in need of participants for my study. The purpose of my study is to explore how abuse/neglect in childhood and or adulthood affects interpersonal relationships and interactions with coworkers. I was drawn to this particular topic due to the abuse my sisters and I endured during childhood and the domestic violence my mother and two of my sisters have experienced in their marriages. This new line of research might provide mental health professionals and crisis workers additional insights as to areas that survivors may need support.

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Tuesday, 19 April 2016 14:01

Child Abuse Ignored by Clinton and Obama

When I started this website, my very first article talked about the total absence of a national dialogue about adult survivors of child abuse and neglect and abused children in general. Child abuse is the largest humanitarian crisis in America causing tremendous damage psychologically, emotionally, and economically on defenseless victims. And yet, Hillary Clinton and President Obama continue to remain silent. Where is the outrage? Where is the sense of decency and support for the 50 million adult survivors of child abuse who continue to suffer horribly due to the acts of their perpetrator(s)?

Stop Ignoring Child Abuse

Believe it or not, April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month. Have you heard any of the major media talk about this? Any members of Congress or President Obama? Survivors are silenced and conditioned from childhood to keep the secret to protect the perpetrators. It seems like most of society are co-conspirators in protecting them as well. If not, where is the public outcry?

Stopping Child Abuse - Part 2

America must stop tolerating the crimes of child abuse and neglect. There is more outrage in neighborhoods when someone slashes their tires at night than when they suspect child abuse in their community. What is wrong with this picture? Americans need to take their blinders off and stop this madness. Here are suggestions that can be implemented immediately:1

Stopping Child Abuse - Part 1

Everyone knows about child abuse in America, but where is the public outrage? With all of the hot lines, mandatory reporting laws, case workers, family court systems, etc., the rampage still continues and has never slowed down. As I’ve said before, the three most unsafe places for a child are their home, school, and in church. And too many people fear the government’s intervention into what they call “family problems.”

The Response to Child Abuse Trauma

When children are abused, they begin to question themselves and their world because it destroys two essential beliefs:

  • Their sense of trust, and
  • Their sense of control over their lives.
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Dear Diane, Thank you for continuing to chip away at the brick. The wall is thick, but little by little it can break.
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I have been pretending that I'm ok and participating in this world when I haven't. I pretend to trust when I don't . The impact th... Read More
Monday, 15 June 2015 00:13
After 10 years of work, I am beginning to see the Brick Wall of Denial start to crumble a little, and that is a good sign. All of ... Read More
Monday, 15 June 2015 07:28

NIH Needs to Address Child Abuse

The need to address the long-term effects of child abuse and interpersonal violence by NIH (National Institutes of Health) is critical for the wellbeing of a large percentage of Americans. About 10 years ago, just such a request was made in the April 22, 2005 issue of the journal Science by Jennifer Freyd who is the editor of the Journal of Trauma & Dissociation. She called for the creation of a new National Institute on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence – but her call for this Institute was ignored.

Effective Child Abuse Intervention - Part 2

There is an unusual degree of consensus among child welfare workers, researchers, politicians, criminal justice professionals and the public that the current systems for safeguarding abused and neglected children are hobbled by fragmentation of services and policies.[1] Key problems include:

Effective Child Abuse Intervention - Part 1

With the large number of child abuse and neglect victims and caretakers to be served, large case worker loads, high volume of criminal justice referrals, and limited programs available, resources are rationed. Victims of child sexual abuse and severe physical abuse are the most frequently referred for criminal justice action and program services. In general, neglect cases—especially those involving chronic low-level neglect – receive few or no services.[1] However, experts emphasize that sexual abuse, physical violence, emotional and psychological abuse, and neglect often co-occur, so these children are many times not being served.

Society Blames Victims

Millions of adult survivors of child abuse and neglect isolate because of society’s refusal to lend support when they finally have enough courage to tell someone about their past trauma. After being brainwashed as young children that they were the cause of their own abuse and that if they said anything, they would endure more harm, adult survivors are usually left with the need to summon up enormous courage, if they want to confront their abuser’s criminal acts, with little or no support from the public. It is an almost impossible task, so many never reach that level of defiance.

Law Enforcement and the Abusive Family

There are three related assumptions that still serve as the basis for much policy and practice in the criminal justice system.[1] The first assumption is that maltreatment of children and violence against women are completely separate phenomena. The second is that children who witness violence are not significantly affected by it. The third is that the non-abusive parent in a domestic violence situation (the mother in 95% of cases) should be held accountable for the actions of the abuser.

Relationship of Victimized Girls and Crime

The relationship between girls being abused and their involvement in crime later in life was studied by the National Institute of Justice.[1] It found that when compared with girls who have not been abused and neglected during childhoodabused and neglected girls are:

Catholic Church Mirrors Incestuous Families

The Catholic Church, along with almost every other religious organization, has sheltered child molesters within their “families.” It is just that there has been a lot more coverage of the Catholic Church by the media.  What is very obvious to me and other survivors is the hypocrisy and feigned repugnance of the American public about these abuse revelations. It happens every day in American homes and yet there is no public outcry.

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Tuesday, 08 July 2014 15:31

America's Child Welfare System a Disgrace

The Brookings Institute conducted a six year study and published its findings in 2007 in a report titled, “Child Protection and Parent Training Programs.” They wanted to:

Children Witnessing Domestic Violence

Senator Paul Wellstone, who died in a plane crash in 2002, was a champion for the downtrodden and those suffering from mental illness. He worked hard to represent the “least of us” and for that I am very grateful. I want to provide you with information about a bill he introduced in Congress in 2001 – about 13 years ago. And yes, you guessed it. It was not introduced into law. It was called the “Children Who Witness Domestic Violence Act.”

Letter to Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease

I wrote a letter shown below to the Editor-In-Chief of the Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease protesting his publication of what I considered unscientific information. Letters from distinguished mental healthcare professionals were sent as well voicing concerns similar to mine.

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